# 17, Nothing Will Be Impossible

Matthew 17: 14-20 has an interesting story. “When they came to the crowd, a man came to him, knelt before him, and said, “Lord have mercy on my son, for he is an epileptic and he suffers terribly;
he often falls into the fire and often into the water. And I brought him to your disciples, but they could not cure him.” Jesus answered, “You faithless and perverse generation, how much longer must I be with you? How much longer must I put up with you? Bring him here to me.” And Jesus rebuked the demon, and it came out of him, and the boy was cured instantly.
In this ancient culture, casting out a demon was synonymous with casting out the sickness or disease. They wrongly believed that almost every sickness was caused by a demon. So do not worry about this term or usage. This was just their cultural understanding. There are no literal demons inhabiting human bodies causing sickness. Their is however demonic behavior which simply means self destructive or self defeating behavior. There are no literal demons.
Then the disciples came to Jesus privately and said, “Why could not we cast it out?” He said to them, “Because of your little faith. For truly I tell you, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, “Move from here to there and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you.”
This is not a typical attitude for Jesus. He shows frustration and disappointment in his students. They have been told they have the power to heal, yet they fail. The higher consciousness of Spirit in Jesus is on a different level from everyone else. This is always frustrating. However, we can be like Jesus.
In one place Jesus teaches that it only takes a small bit of faith to do miracles. But here he implies that if you can’t do miracles, you have no faith at all. Perhaps this is rabbinic exaggeration to make his point very clear. Miracles begin within us! We each must find the place within us where nothing is impossible. The word faith wraps up the whole spiritual path we must walk to where Jesus is. And where is Jesus? He is in the place of consciousness, awareness, that knows that, “What is impossible
with men is possible with God.” (Luke 18:27).
Every great positive achievement in human history has come from someone or some group who dreamed and imagined it in the place within themselves where all things are possible. You and I can move the mountains or problems that we need to move. Nothing is impossible for us to overcome. And the miracle of overcoming always begins within us where God consciousness dwells. One thing that faith must believe is that nothing is impossible.

# 16, Jesus’ Faith That God Provides

Jesus taught us to have faith that God would provide. He taught this at a time when many of his followers were poor. Some did not know where the family’s next day meal was coming from. With startling images he taught saying, “And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? And why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not clothed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you-you of little faith?”
Here Jesus teaches a simple, revolutionary idea that is the exact opposite of what we think about existence. Jesus wanted us to trust that the universe is a friendly place and let God take care of everything.
We should give even the most basic needs to God to handle. But we know that clothes to wear and other necessities require some work on our part, so what did he mean by saying God would provide it? He meant that we need emotional freedom from the burden of work and the worry of things needed. We need freedom from the burden of suffering over the seeming shortage of necessities.
He says to look at nature that provides everything that every entity, plant or animal , needs to survive. And nature is the book, the expression of God’s heart. It was written long before any sacred scriptures were. Nature provides for all in it without them worrying of fearing or killing themselves with overwork. The plants of the field and the birds of the air receive their provision daily without a sense of worry or burden of fear. This is the way God provides our needs if we will open our souls to it and be in unity and peace with the moment without worry.
If we do this we become free not of work but of the burden of work and the burden of worry, fear and suffering. We do what we are called to do in our place of doing, that is the way God provides for us naturally through the nature he rules. We think our existence depends upon struggle because we are complex creatures who are different from the animals of nature and the lilies of the field. In Jesus’ teaching this is a grave mistake.
We are created by the same Spirit which created all of nature. We are one with nature. As plants and animals naturally be what they are without worry and receive nature’s provision, so God will provide for us. But to receive this provision and receive it we need to chose to nurture our soul by being in tune with the Spirit who holds the universe together and choose to be aware of our soul’s connection to God and nature’s provision will naturally flow to us. This is the rule of a gracious Creator.
Again, we are all called to do and work at God’s calling for us but Jesus reminds us of the real crux of life. Life is not all about working as we think it is. Life is about working free from the burdens of fear, drudgery, worry and suffering. It is about working with love, trust and peace and the friendly universe will flow to us meeting our needs.
God does provide!

# 15, Real Religious Living

Jesus said in Matthew 22: 37-40, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.” This is the greatest and first commandment. And a second is like it: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” On these commandments hang all the law and prophets.”
These two commandments are the whole essence of life. They explain the only real religious living that honors God, others and all of life. These are beautiful and famous words. But organized religion has often misunderstood, misapplied and misused them. The church has focused on doing these commandments the hard way and missed God’s way which is much easier.
We should have focused on being, instead of struggling so hard trying to keep these commandments. We should have followed Jesus’ law of least effort and learned to naturally live and obey these beautiful and eternal words. But our focus on trying so hard has made these commandments a divisive thing.
By focusing on doing, trying hard, with great effort to keep these commandments, Christians caused a split between the select few who can devote their whole lives to loving God and those who spend a little time each week in loving God in structured worship. The Roman Catholic Church calls those who spend full time trying to love God, “the religious”, and they are in special orders, monasteries, convents and the priesthood. Throughout history for many of these folks, the full time religious approach has not worked very well.
Protestant Christians put their full time “religious” into professional religious or church roles. This too has not and is not working very well for many of them. The mental health of American Protestant ministers is perhaps at an all time low. In fact a Protestant or Evangelical minister who does have a sound psychological healthiness often winds up leaving the professional ministry because he does not fit in with what many of the church people expect him to be. This very false division of labor among Christians is based on the assumption that Jesus was talking about something terribly hard to do, something that takes enormous time and effort. It is an assumption that God is hard to please and is easily displeased. But a God who fluctuates all the time between being pleased and not being pleased is not a god of grace for grace is unconditional love.
Actually, Jesus was teaching wholeness in this passage. When a person gives his mind to loving God, transformation always takes place. For God is our Source. Choosing to love Him makes us aware that our soul is one with Him. In Unity with Him, our very breathing becomes loving him and others as we consciously choose to love. Love does not have to be performed according to our mistaken views of perfectionism. It instead is to be done in an effortless, natural way. This is the meaning of the law of least effort as taught in the sermon on the mount. Love comes naturally when we simply believe in the God who dwells in our souls.
Our children loved art, music and writing. No one had to force them to do art, music or writing. They turned to it naturally whenever they had the time for these were things their inner being found joy in. If children know they are loved they naturally turn to and love their parents and others whom they know love them. This is the way Jesus meant for us to keep the great commandments, joyfully without effort. And it begins when we begin to love our own souls which are already connected to God.

# 14, Believing in the Soul

Once, long, long, ago, a young princess named Sarah demanded that she be allowed to choose her own husband. Finally, her father, the king, allowed her to do so. She fell in love with a low born wood cutter. But his parents were the salt of the earth. And Joseph, the woodcutter was strong, handsome, loving and noble of heart.
When the King saw Joseph’s nobility of character he gave Sarah permission to marry him knowing his daughter would be happy. But, for three nights before the wedding the angel of death appeared to Sarah in a dream saying, “When you have been married exactly a year, your husband will die!”
On their first anniversary after Joseph went into the woods to work, Sarah saw the angel of death sitting in her front yard. She went to him and pleaded for Joseph’s life but the deadly harbinger said, “No! I warned you, and when he comes home from work, I will take him.”
Sarah fled to the wooded hills where a wise seer-sage lived in a cave, Satern the Seer. His knowledge of death and the afterlife was legendary. Exhausted she finally found him and for the rest of the day he took her on a spiritual journey of questions and thought that helped her to see the truth of death and the life after. She found comfort, release from fear and finally, how to triumph over death. Perhaps the greatest truth of several that he taught her was to become aware of the soul.
Life is full of illusion that is a subtle form of magic that hides reality from us. Take a piece of ice, a snowflake and a cloud of steam and upon seeing them you are asked, “Do you see any water?” If you say no. you have been deceived by the illusion. But if you say yes, you have seen through the illusion to the reality that all three in essence are water. Death is the greatest illusion of all that we must see through to the reality of the matter.
“Sarah,” said Satern the Seer, “you knew Joseph would die within a year and yet you married him, why?”
“Because, I truly loved him, I saw his goodness and nobility of soul.”
Satern replied, “You saw his essence, his soul. True love is recognizing someone else’s soul and joining your soul to theirs. The soul is eternal. It is our consciousness and it can never die. It comes from God, is connected to God, and returns to God. To join another in love is communion that can never be lost.”
“ We bury the dead or cremate them and we see it done, so we believe in death. Our eyes never see the soul but our heart, our spirit does. You can stop believing your eyes, death is an illusion. The eternity of the soul is the reality to see. The Apostle in I Corinthians 15 taught that when the physical body dies we are immediately raised a spiritual body.
Our main duty in life is to get to know our own souls and the beauty that can be found in the souls of others. Getting to know our own soul, becoming aware that the Kingdom or Rule and Power of God abides there is called the first resurrection in the book of revelation. Death has no power over those thus enlightened for they have found the God they are connected to, the God within them. Your soul and those souls of all others that you love are eternal. Take care of your own soul and nurture the souls of others. This is the work of Heaven on earth.

# 13, Emotional Freedom

Here is a fact we must learn to be emotionally free: The external reality of life can never be separated from the internal reality. The universe, God , is friendly toward all but this is only realized when we internally absorb and trust in this friendliness. You see, what you are internally, is reflected back to us by the external world. The universe is your mirror by which you can see the state of your soul if you will accept it. The Universe was created by Divine Spirit or Consciousness. We too are spirit or consciousness and our consciousness comes from God. We are connected to God and we can become aware of it if we accept it and trust it. We too are co-creators with God. We create the content of our internal consciousness and that creates the content of our external world.
We always reap what we sow. It is one of God’s inexorable laws. So negative energy like anger, resentment, judging is always destructive to our internal well being and our external well being. Friendly, loving people find themselves part of a friendly, loving universe. Angry, resentful, judging people find themselves in a hell of a mess. Their lives are full of destructive emotional turbulence.
Emotional turbulence is a great barrier to the fulfillment of our hopes, dreams, desires, intentions. It destroys our chance at helpful miracles in our lives and our chance to receive God’s message to us. We need to hear Jesus say what he did to the raging storm on Lake Galilee, “Peace, be still!” We can change our negative energy into a higher level of consciousness, of awareness of Spirit.
Hearing Jesus say within us , “Peace be still!” can drop the melodrama, hysteria, resentment, grievances, hostility and guilt from our lives. We can become free of self importance, self concern, self pity. We can laugh at at ourselves. We can see the humor in life. We can build humorous, playful , nurturing relationships. We murkily cloud our potential to experience the Spirit, the Divine within us, with our ego which has some good uses as a warning system of possible danger but it is inadequate to lead us through life because it is selfish. We can only trust Spirit to lead us successfully through life. Prayer, meditation and study are the main tools for us to use in finding the spirit of God within us and following it. Only by following Spirit instead of ego do we learn how to look at ourselves honestly in the mirrors of the universe and by listening to the Spirit within, correct ourselves. This brings emotional healing.
Here is a mirroring experience. Carol Riley was a most beautiful golden haired blond with classic blue eyes in the sixth grade. She was vivacious and smart. But I did not like her because she talked at machine gun rapidity so much. Amongst the girls she claimed me for her boy friend. I responded by rudely telling her I wanted no part of that. My mother told me sternly that it was an honor for someone to like you and a boy should never treat any girl that way. She said, “You don’t have to be her boyfriend but you have to be friendly!”
Later one of my teachers gave a talk in class about how what we strongly disliked in others was our own worst fault and we were afraid to admit it. This literally tore my guts up for some time because all who know me know that I love to talk. By grace and admitting my fault I have a great deal of emotional healing on this and other matters. Now, I talk even more than I ever have and enjoy it more; I just pause and listen to others when its their turn and I do not condemn anybody else or judge them for their talking. I am at peace with my own personality. We all can achieve peace if we will look with open hearts into the mirrors of the universe, especially the mirrors of other people who are actually us. They just appear differently.
Emotional freedom brings psychological and spiritual freedom also. Pain and pleasure are the two main emotions of life. We love what brings us pleasure. We fear what brings us pain. We want to get closer to what is pleasurable and move away from what is painful.
Emotional freedom is balance in life. Life is like being on a river. The left bank is pain and the right bank is pleasure. Get too close to the bank of pleasure and you will be hindered, slowed, or snagged on your life journey. Stay close to the bank of pleasure too much and you become addicted to things that bring you pleasure such as certain kinds of relationships (boss, pastor, lover,etc), money, sex, power, drugs, alcohol, things. All addiction is ego centered and destructive.
The same is true if you get too close to the bank of pain. Too much pain darkens all the enjoyment of life.
The emotionally free way to make the journey of life is to stay in the powerful middle of the river, handling pain and becoming stronger, enjoying pleasure but never becoming addicted to things of pleasure. May our hearts listen to the voice of Spirit within us saying Jesus’ words, “Peace, be still!”

# 12, Karma

Karma means, you reap what you sow. Every great religion has this as a great central truth. And woe be the person who fails to realize this truth. Many religious people think that it is what they believe that is most important. They think their unique religious doctrines are the most important thing about their religion. They think their doctrines make them more important than those who differ with them. But they are wrong. What you do is more important than the doctrines you hold. As one bumper sticker said, “My karma just ran over your dogma.”
We achieve our highest selves when we are constantly aware that we reap what we sow. Jesus taught this in many statements such as, “Judge not, that you be not judged; for what judgment you give out is the judgment you shall receive.” Every action generates a force of energy that returns to us in like kind.
When we constantly choose actions that bring happiness and success to others we receive the fruit of happiness and success ourselves. Every action and reaction is a result of choice. When we step back and observe the choice we are making, we move the choice into our conscious realm and we can choose the good instead of unconsciously giving into our selfish ego which is always self destructive.
We need always to ask our self two things. First, “What are the results of this choice I am making?” Our hearts know the best way. We must listen to our inner voices. Second, “Will this choice I make now bring happiness to me and to those around me?” If it will, then proceed with your choice; if not then go another direction.
There is only one choice in each moment out of many possibilities that will create happiness for you and those around you. Make it and you will spontaneously do the right thing at the right moment. All involved will be nourished towards becoming your highest selves.
The universe keeps a perfect accounting system. Every deed and thought will reap its appropriate action. Every wrong choice creates a debt to pay.
But they are ways we can transcend our debt or transmute it. Jesus taught us to pray, “forgive us our debts as we have forgiven our debtors.” We can learn from our bad choices that cause hurt and honestly teach others how to avoid creating similar hurt. In this way we transcend and transmute our debt. We can also forgive and not judge others for their similar bad choices. In this way we transmute our bad choices and create positive good for ourselves and others.
Another way to transcend our moral debt is to keep coming back to the Divine Consciousness and honestly review it in His presence. It is like washing a soiled linen. Each time you wash it some of the stain is removed. In this way, prayer and meditation heal us and help us to become our best selves.

# 11, The Way of the Universe

The way of becoming our best self is known as the way in the religion of Dao which means simply way. It is the way or the path in every other great religion and in Christianity it is sometimes called the way of the Lord. Today I will call it the way of the universe. The universe operates by dynamic exchange of information and energy. The two aspects of this flow of energy in the universe are giving and receiving.
Jesus taught that to him who gives, it shall be given in return in even better measure than that which he gave. (Luke 6: 38). “And in our willingness to give that which we seek, we keep the abundance of the universe circulating in our lives.” (Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success). If we want love, we must give love. If we need help, we must help others. If we need money we must help others with our money. The flow of life is simply the harmonious interaction of all the elements and forces that structure the field of existence. We and all the universe are in constant and dynamic exchange. If we fail to give or receive we stop the circulation of creative energy. The result is like stopping the flow of blood.
I spoke to a young Hispanic woman associate in Wal-Mart recently. She told of her mother who has always been in charge of the family and done all the giving. But now she is alone and in declining health. But she still wants to be in charge of all the family gatherings and do all the advice giving and other things. She wants every one coming to her and her house as they always did.
But the wise daughter told her mother, “Look you need to let us take care of you and help you with your needs now. You have always given to us and taken care of us and you will do a great wrong if you do not allow us to give to you in your need at this time of life.”
The daughter was right. Giving gives birth to receiving and receiving gives birth to giving. They are the same thing. Each is just a different aspect of the flow of energy in all the universe. Every atom exists because of the constant exchange of energy and information between the subatomic particles and every other atom. We can survive and become our best selves in no other way. What we need we can acquire by giving it away.
This works with corporations and nations as well as individuals. It is our intention behind the giving and receiving that is most important. Our intention must always be to create love and happiness for the giver and receiver.
To grow into your highest self, practice giving something to everyone you meet. A smile, a kindly glance, a silent prayer, even the thought of giving or blessing has the power to affect others. Our bodies are bundles of energy and information held together by our consciousness. The universe is energy and information held together by Divine Consciousness. Therefore we are thinkers in a thinking universe and thought has the power to transform. And always we should be conscious of the need to give and receive.

# 10, Achieving Our Potential

The will and way of God is that we become our highest selves and achieve our best potential. Our highest self is buried in our subconscious or in the depths of our soul. We are called by Spirit to awaken to our highest self. Meditation, thinking about what we are thinking, and contemplative prayer are our most important tools in discovering our highest self.
In our souls we are pure potentiality as God, the Divine Consciousness, is pure potentiality. It is a wrong emphasis in Christianity that we are separated from God by our sin. We are none of us separated from God. We are all connected to God and one another. But we certainly may not be aware of this. But we can awaken to this wonderful reality. As we become aware of the falseness of the myth of the Christian church that we are separated from God, it is the beginning of our becoming our highest selves and achieving our potential with an ever evolving awareness of God’s presence.
Outward Christianity emphasizes separation, sin, the need for rescue from damnation and getting a guarantee of eternal life in heaven after this life and thus escaping hell. Inner Christianity, which has always existed quietly and with much persecution in the shadow of outer Christianity, emphasizes connection to God and others and discovering the power of this connection within your self. Instead of heaven after death it emphasizes achieving our best potential now and creating our own heaven of calm within ourselves here and now, overcoming sinfulness and all sense of separation and being prepared to create with God our heaven after death. We can enter the next life as co-creator with God to evolve all the more as we help further the evolution of the universe. This is achieving our highest potential.
When we realize we are one with Spirit, with God, then in our meditation and prayers we can examine our needs, intentions and desires and their worthiness. Then we can release them into the pure potentiality of Divine Spirit of which we partake by the pure potentiality that is our own souls. This pure potentiality within our souls is connected to the Pure Potentiality that rules the universe. Pure potentiality in us, in God, is where it is possible to create anything. From here miracles do spring. It is the field of all possibilities within us and within the infinite universe. We can work with God to achieve our best potential.
We can release our goals, intentions, desires into the pure potentiality of God and our own souls. We can then leave them there with knowingness and peace that they shall orchestrate their own fulfillment. If we do this and make no demands as to how they are fulfilled but accept the provision that comes from God and within our own, soul which is connected to God, then we achieve our best potential.

# 7, Just Be

I am a harmful perfectionist and the one I most harm is myself and those few close to me. But I am aware of it and fighting it. The things I most love and am good at I try to achieve them perfectly and can lose emotional control if anything derails me from my pursuit of my objectives. I try to find some religious formula of daily life that will enable me to flow through my work with perfection. Each formula I try helps for about thee days and then it falls apart because I can’t work the formula perfectly enough.
Perfectionism for me and many others is self destructive. All perfectionism comes from our ego and it is driven by external things, the material world. Whatever springs from our ego is fear based. Perfectionism is propelled by the fear that if I don’t get this just right, then I will not be loved as I want to be. Why are we driven this way?
The answer is we want the approval of others. We want to attain the top position to show that we are special. We want power over others so they will give us the proper respect and admiration. And to be a person of power and worth we think we have to have a lot of money.
I catch myself striving for perfection in my religious devotion. Upon examination I have learned that this is not because I want to be the best servant to others that I can be but because I want to feel good all the time, to feel that I am in control of everything. Religious devotion, prayer and meditation for a while drives away my worries but then I let my perfectionism worry about how well I am praying or meditating effectively. Perfectionism is a demon that never lets the ego driven soul rest.
To the perfectionist, chaos and uncertainty are terrifying but to the trustful soul, chaos and uncertainty are the way of wisdom. Meditation has taught me that all the best opportunities to evolve into my highest self spring from chaos and uncertainty. Relaxed trust brings good to us from uncertainty whereas trying to organize everything perfectly so that we can find the good in life destroys us. We are to work to better all things. But the way of the Lord to work is the way of least effort. Trust the wisdom of uncertainty for uncertainty can always bring us what we need.
The way of trusting uncertainty is to determine each day to judge nothing that day. Accept each moment without judgment or blame saying to yourself, “the universe is just as it should be in this moment.” Then what may need to be worked on in that moment can be addressed but without judgment or blame. Thus make an opportunity of every moment to do your maximum good.
All the ego driven fear in trying to eliminate chaos focuses on the external world, the house, the yard, the bank account, the vehicles, the social position and power, the money. The ego desires perfection in these things so that it may be affirmed as a success. It leads us to believe that if this happens then we will control our chaos and uncertainty. But this is false. The fear of chaos and uncertainty comes not from the external but from the internal world of our spirits, our souls. Nature and the external world always reflect our internal world. All the material world is an illusion. Our spirit is the ultimate reality and only by becoming aware of and evolving to our highest self in Spirit do we attain to real wealth and success.
The answer to ego and all human problems is an internal spiritual one. Realizing that we are connected to God, one with God in our souls, we realize that we are co-creators with him of a world of bliss and affluence for ourselves and we do it in love because because it is or nature to create good and enjoy by just being. We can learn to live each moment in peace and unity with God, eternity and the universe.
When we do this our ego fears die and we are in our natural state of bliss which is always the state of God . Bliss is not happiness. Happiness is always for some reason. Bliss is being happy just because you exist, just because you are. It is when you stomp the ground and say, “I am!” And you rejoice just because you are. Bliss is our true, natural state when we are aware that our soul is connected to God and to all the universe and we are are all held together with every other atom by this blissful Divine Spirit. In bliss, we no longer worry.

# 6, The Spirituality of Our Bodies

I recommend Dr. Deepak Chopra’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, It is short, profound and powerful. He concludes the book by showing how the cells of our bodies operate by these seven spiritual laws for us. These laws are an intricate part of the universe itself. The following are his ideas and thoughts from his book.
Think of it, life and even our bodies are more spirit than material but with our thinking we tend to focus on the material to our detriment. The way of spirit is the way of abundance of life, balanced life and healthy life. Medical Doctor Chopra closes his book by showing how the cells of our bodies obey and illustrate the seven spiritual laws of success. Here I show the cellular demonstration of three of these laws. The Universal Mind, God, if you please, choreographs everything from the subatomic to the cosmos in perfect harmony throughout billions of galaxies. Its intelligence is everywhere and permeates everything. And everything alive is an expression of this intelligence and operates through these seven spiritual laws.
Any cell, stomach, heart, brain, etc., functions through expressing these laws of success. Every cell is born of pure potentiality or the pure consciousness that creates all things. This is the second law of spiritual success. Our world is a result of thoughts. Change your thoughts and you change your world. DNA is an example of pure potentiality, in fact it is the material expression of pure potentiality. The same DNA is in every cell but it orchestrates things in a different way in different cells to express itself in different ways to fulfill the unique function of that particular cell. We are all born of pure potentiality and thus we are all one with each other and with God. If we will accept this unity we will realize that we are not separated from God even by our sins. We can thus by grace live in peace and unity.
Each cell obeys the law of intention and desire by releasing its intentions and desires into the human body to orchestrate the body’s healthy function. We create the wealth and affluence we need for life by releasing our intentions and desires into the pure potentiality of divine consciousness and simply trusting in a relaxed way that these intentions and desires have infinite power to organize their own fulfillment in their own best time. This is the second law of spiritual success. All wealth and affluence and advancement is created out of conscious thought arising from the depths of our souls.
The t;hird spiritual law is the law of giving and receiving and we will close with it. A cell is only alive and healthy when it exists in a balance and equilibrium. Out of equilibrium there is cancer, infection, destruction. Every cell stays in harmony and health by a constant dynamic flow of giving and receiving. Every cell gives to it what it needs and it in turn gives back to every other cell what they need.
No human being can be happy and fulfilled unless they are balanced in joyful giving and receiving. Both are necessary to help others. You must give to help others; give both spiritual gifts and material help. But with equal grace you must receive from others all that they offer you. You can not be healthy and happy unless there is a dynamic constant flow of both giving and receiving. This is the way our body survives. It is the way we survive also.